Okay, there’s a few things that bother me with the online community, and flaking out of a commitment and dishonesty are two of them. I have participated and saw to the end three sewing swaps/bees, and I’m currently on a third. And of course, I’ve participated in at least 2-4 papercrafting swaps as well, if not more. I missed the deadline yesterday to mail out the rest of the blocks from the 3×6 Sampler Quilt Mini Bee; however we were graciously given an extension to have the blocks postmarked by the end of the month. Of course, since I’ve only got one block left to do, I will have them mailed out by Friday. Thankfully, the members of my group have been very understanding; and I don’t want to disappoint! The reality of it is, I’m in the last month of my pregnancy and I’m running on vapors most of the day, so sometimes I have to pick between the dishes or sewing. I try to find that balance, and I’m doing a good job of it -I think-. Jeff is understanding if I’m only able to do 5 or so bursts of cleaning for 5 minutes at a time; and as long as there’s visible progress, that’s all he asks for. Thankfully, since sewing is done sitting down, I have an easier job with being able to sit down for long periods of time and getting more done in one session.
But I degrees.
It boils down to this simple fact.. I AM NOT THE FLAKING TYPE. There has been ONE TIME that I’ve bowed out of a swap and that was due to the lack of integrity of the people involved as well as the website. A dear friend’s name was being dragged through the mud in an intense time of grief; and being the friend I am, I could no longer associate myself with that group.
Other than that though, I’m not going to flake just because I’m only in it for personal gain, or selfishness or whatever. I think long and hard about making online commitments.. well as long as the deadline allows me to anyways. There are several factors in my descision making.
1. Time. Am I going to have enough time to accomplish what I need to accomplish? One swap I signed up for I had to make and sign and mail out 101 blocks to the coordinator in a small amount of time. I had to sit and decide if I felt that I was going to be able to do so. After thinking about it, I said “Yes I can do it!” and so I did.
2. Is this something that is within my knowhow and talent? While I don’t think I’m completely without talent and skill, I have to admit, there are swaps that I would love to participate in, but quite frankly, they intimidate me! As much as I am able to sit, drool and admire the people and talent involved, if I feel that it’s beyond my scope of skill, I’m not going to participate. I don’t want to disappoint, nor do I want to fall short. Someone may think that I did a great job, but if I feel that I didn’t do a great job, then I can’t knowingly send out something I feel is subpar.
So, here I am, making a personal commitment for the internet to see. While I’ve personally taken it upon myself to not be a flake, I am going to publicly bind myself to that statement. That’s why there’s now a badge on the sidebar that is going to be a permanent fixture on my blog. While it was made for the 3×6 Sampler Quilt Mini Bee, I will extend the pledge and commitment to any future swaps I will be participating in.
I will make commitments with the fullest intention of seeing them through, the best way I can and I will not set myself up to disappoint others and most importantly, myself. I consider myself to be a person of honesty and integrity and I want to continue to be that person.